Here is what you do; if you don't know what to do.

Here is what to do; if you don't know WHAT to do!

When we don't know which way to turn next, we [the majority of us] remain frozen; unable to make changes! Frozen in the sense that it is hard to know which way to go in life. With that comes poor decision making. We must think things all the way through; before we make hasty decisions.

Which in turn, when we make wise decisions it would produce a much greater reward, by doing so. Most of us already know this; but, somehow it escapes our frontal lobes in times of turmoil. Sometimes we are willing, to be honest with ourselves... And admit when we are wrong; if we at least admit it to ourselves that our decision-making skills could be refreshed, we would all be better off.

Yes, you can be dishonest to yourself. The worst thing you can do... Is do nothing! 
You only get further and further behind, which completely contradicts and complicates what you are trying to accomplish in the first place. -Know what to do when you don't know what to do.

Start by taking charge of yourself and admit when you are wrong. Treat yourself fairly when you are (because you only get one you). And on the occasions when we do need to admit we are wrong; understand that is OVER HALF of the battle! It takes a lot of guts (courage) to admit when we are wrong, however, after that is is all for the better. We can start seeking out the best possible solution to that particular problem.

So, if you are still blaming everyone else, all of the time, for ALL OF YOUR Problems... Then STOP It, and rethink who the problem actually begins and ends with. 

The best way to start fixing a personality (and your problems), is to first know that you can; with serenity, courage and wisdom. Begin by finding God, place him in your heart, and know that you are not taking this journey alone. Once you learn or confirm that you are not alone; your journey shouldn't be as intimidating as it was before. That way you can spend time looking back in your memories and see other people's views of the same scenario.
There have been times that I was insensitive, greedy and rude! I didn't know at the time. I thought of it when I WAS FED UP! Fed up with me for blaming others for my very own doings. Ridiculous I thought; how can you blame others for what I have created? But I did, for years in fact. Once I was able to admit that "I CREATE IT ALL! I am here at this very moment, by the choices I made many years ago.
So, when you start to feel the rage of anger brought on by other people, innocent people or people that also make mistakes and say rude things; just keep your cool and know that one day they will have a bad day or a bad week because of their decisions. And I am sure you will encounter more bad moods and mistakes from yourself and others. And that is ok, just remember to forgive yourself and others.

A bittersweet story...

I am not saying that everyone has the ability to completely heal themselves; I am totally for getting help when I get overwhelmed. I want others to know that there are things we can change and then there are things that we need to admit that we need to get professional help. And please Do NOT feel embarrassed or ashamed in any way. Be proud that you have the courage to stand up for yourself!

But also there are some things that will actually help the process of putting yourself in a better mood, such as:

The Weather: Sunlight can affect our brain almost directly through the thin parts of the skull and other parts of the brain and triggers the production of endorphins which are the 'feel-good hormones' that put us in such a good mood. A lack of sunlight can starve us of one of these major sources of happiness hormones and this is what causes many people to suffer from 'SAD' – 'Seasonal Affective Disorder' – which is a more exaggerated dependency on the weather for our mood. Such people can purchase daylight lamps which cause the same effect in the brain and can be kept on throughout the more overcast days. 

Energy: Having more energy keeps us in a livelier and more upbeat mood as the brain requires energy to function. Make sure then that you get enough calories and get enough sleep. Vitamins such as B6 can also help improve our mood this way. 

Food: Foods can have a range of different effects on our body, providing us with carbs, but also with chemicals such as dopamine. Dopamine is the 'reward' center of our brain and this is what gets produced after sex or when we eat something when we're really hungry to encourage us to repeat this behavior. A particularly good source of dopamine is bananas. 

Immune System: Our immune system can also increase or lessen our mood, and if we are fighting lots of diseases this can make our whole body more suppressed and our mood will follow suit. 

Smiling: Smiling can improve our mood via something called 'facial feedback'. Facial feedback essentially states that when we pull an expression, our body produces the hormones to make sure that we feel that emotion. Thus if we smile, we will start to feel better and if we grimace then our mood will drop. Next time you're in a bad mood try just smiling and you'd be surprised what it can do. 

Seeing Others Smile: Another effect occurs thanks to what is known as 'mirror neurons' – neurons that fire when they see someone else do something. Thus if you see someone else smile it causes our mirror neurons to fire and we feel as though we are smiling. The reverse is also true, and this is just one part of why moods are contagious and can spread through a group. 

Anticipation and Reward: Dopamine is released in a range of scenarios where we either anticipate a reward, or get rewarded. This is why we'll feel ecstatic if we win the lottery – but also why just the anticipation of looking at the numbers can actually improve our mood. 

Music: Music can affect the pleasure centers of the brain and a fast beat can speed up your thinking and make you feel more energized and awake – all of which are correlated with better moods. Slow music, on the other hand, slows you down and make you feel more sullen as a result. 

Love: Love causes us to produce phenylalanine which is another chemical that causes happiness and this is partly why we feel so ecstatic when we're in love. Kissing and cuddling can also cause us to release a range of feel-good hormones. 

Exercise: Exercise causes us to produce endorphins and again improves our mood as a result. This is what is known as the 'runners high'.

One of the most important things to remember is that; life can sometimes get really hard. And then the next day something completely amazing happens to you... just think about how close you were to miss that. 

You can't base the value of your life on one person's opinion or a short span of time such as 8-12 hours; when you have lived so many years. You need to love yourself so you can be lovable to someone else. Even though you are loved and cared for, even if you don't realize it. As far as someone getting mad at us, this doesn't mean that they stopped loving us.

I hope everyone is blessed with the ability to be doing exactly what they want to be doing. May your life extend to infinity and back, have a blessed day.

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