I have found that writing has become very therapeutic. It has become my passion for getting the word out about suicide. Not only am I determined to save other parents from the pain of losing a child/young adult.
The information that I have learned has brought me to where I am at today. I would like to share this choice knowledge with others because I feel like too many times the subject of SUICIDE gets pushed under the rug. It IS DIFFICULT to Hear; but necessary!
https://www.facebook.com/StopSuicideOneStigmaAtATime/
The reason I advocate for suicide awareness and prevention: 
Meet My Other Two Beautiful Humans:
My Middle offspring, my Son Coty Hall;
I LOVE HIM So Very Much!
He is one of the reasons I still get up in the mornings! I believe they know now how close I was to giving up, they saw when I needed a hug. We all acquired a bond that may or may not have been there from the beginning but is still intact today!
He is one of the reasons I still get up in the mornings! I believe they know now how close I was to giving up, they saw when I needed a hug. We all acquired a bond that may or may not have been there from the beginning but is still intact today!
I also acquired awesome in-law's!
This is my beautiful and awesome daughter, Sommer Hall.
I LOVE HER SO VERY MUCH!
She is one of the major reasons I get up in the morning! My babies do not even realize how close I was to giving up; thank goodness. They were the only light I saw in my day, for many, many years!
Our Youngest, Daughter Sommer Hall; she is 22.
I LOVE HER So Very Much!
There aren't any guarantees in life (except death is to follow), however, when you do everything you can in your power to save your loved ones; you at least prevent some future quilt. Regrets are the daggers to the heart, later when you are beating yourself up. I see things differently now, I see the things I should have,,, could have,,,, done. Is it possible to do things differently today? ABSOLUTLY! Can I change the past and bring my eldest Son back to life? ABSOLUTLY NOT! And that HURTS! It is excruciating some days. However, it still remains true that I cannot bring him back, nor change anything that I feel now, that I should have done differently over the years.
Thank you for visiting my site.
I have possibly life saving information and links to share with you.
I appreciate your loyalty and hope that you do find many reasons to bookmark and come back often.
I appreciate your loyalty and hope that you do find many reasons to bookmark and come back often.
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This pretty much sums it up;
When You Lose a Child [of any age]
to themselves or otherwise...
If you have lost a child you will "get it"!
"WHEN YOU WISH UPON A STAR"
Every time I am in a group of bereaved parents, I hear people say things like, "I wish my child had not died" or "I wish I had him back." Those wishes, unfortunately, can never come true. Another wish I hear is "I wish my friends (or church, or neighbors, or relatives) understood what I am going through and were more supportive." This is a wish that has some possibility of coming true if we are able, to be honest, and assertive with the people around us. What do we wish others understood about the loss of our child?
Here is a partial list of such wishes:
1) I wish you would not be afraid to speak my child’s name. My child lived and was important and I need to hear his name.
2) If I cry or get emotional if we talk about my child, I wish you knew that it is not because you have hurt me; the fact that my child died has caused my tears. You have allowed me to cry and thank you. Crying and emotional outbursts are healing.
3) I wish you would not "kill" my child again by removing from your home his pictures, artwork, or other remembrances.
4) I will have emotional highs and lows, ups and downs. I wish you would not think that if I have a good day my grief is all over, or that if I have a bad day I need psychiatric counseling.
5) I wish you knew that the death of a child is different from other losses and must be viewed separately. It is the ultimate tragedy and I wish you would not compare it to your loss of a parent, a spouse, or a pet.
6) Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you would not shy away from me.
7) I wish you knew all of the "crazy" grief reactions that I am having are in fact very normal. Depression, anger, frustration, hopelessness, and the questioning of values and beliefs are to be expected following the death of a child.
8) I wish you would not expect my grief to be over in six months. The first few years are going to be exceedingly traumatic for us. As with alcoholics, I will never be "cured" or a "former bereaved parent", but will forevermore be a "recovering bereaved parent".
9) I wish you understood the physical reactions to grief. I may gain weight or lose weight, sleep all the time or not at all, develop a host of illnesses and be accident-prone all of which may be related to my grief.
10) Our child’s birthday, the anniversary of his death, and holidays are terrible times for us. I wish you would tell us that you are thinking about our child on these days, and if we get quiet and withdrawn, just know that we are thinking about our child and don’t try to coerce us into being cheerful.
11) It is normal and good that most of us re-examine our faith, values, and beliefs after losing a child. We will question things we have been taught all our lives and hopefully come to some new understanding with our God. I wish you would let me tangle with my religion without making me feel guilty.
12) I wish you would not offer me drinks or drugs. These are just temporary crutches, and the only way I can get through this grief is to experience it. I have to hurt before I can heal.
13) I wish you understood that grief changes people. I am not the same person I was before my child died and I never will be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to "get back to my old self", you will stay frustrated.
I am a new creature with new thoughts, dreams, aspirations, values and beliefs. Please try to get to know the new me - - maybe you’ll still like me...
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Instead of sitting around and waiting for our wishes to come true, we have a obligation to teach people some of the things we have learned about our grief. We can teach these lessons with great kindness, believing that people have good intentions and want to do what is right, but just don’t know what to do with us, or we can sit and wait. I believe our children would want us to help the world understand.
Borrowed From: Grieving Mothers
