What Are The Signs Of A Suicidal Person?

From both a personal and not so personal experience; I have found these are some of the signs of someone contemplating suicide; this may include or exclude- any of these or maybe none of these...

What Are Some Of The Warning Signs For Suicide?

• Losing interest in their once favorite things to do.
• If a person suddenly starts calling into work; "sick", repeatedly.

• Obvious Lack of making any plans for future.

• A normally outgoing personality; suddenly becomes withdrawn and isolating themselves.

• Turning to a crutch, such as alcohol- or hard drugs.

• Not being able to pull one's self out of "FUNK".

• Talking about wanting; to die or to kill oneself.

• Looking for a way to kill oneself, such as searching online or buying a gun.

• Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.

• Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.

• Talking about being a burden to others.

• Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.

• Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.

• Sleeping too little or too much.

• Withdrawing or feeling isolated.

• Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.

• Displaying extreme mood swings.

The following paragraph of information is a word for word copy and paste from URL: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp.aspx

The following signs may mean someone is at risk for suicide. 

***The risk of suicide is greater if a behavior is new or has increased and if it seems related to a painful event, loss, or change. 

If you or someone you know exhibits any of these signs, 

seek help as soon as possible by calling the Lifeline at:

 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

Helpful Hints and Links:

Find a Therapist or Support Group

Speaking to a therapist or attending a support group can help you work through your grief and improve your overall mental health. The following resources can help you find a psychologist, psychiatrist or support group near you.

Create a Safety Plan

Having a plan in place that can help guide you through difficult moments can make a difference and keep you safe.

Watch Stories of Hope and Recovery

Told through the voices of these individuals, their families, and the professionals in their support network, each inspiring story recounts one person's journey from a suicide attempt to the life of hope and recovery he/she is leading today.

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

End copy and paste from http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp.aspx 

Thank you for the honor of spreading awareness and hopefully prevention of suicide from the use of your information.

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September is Suicide Awareness Month! 
Each And Every Moment; SHOULD BE!

In my opinion; each and every month, every day, of each and every hour; should be the time to create awareness for the lonely and depressed. 

And if you don't know what to do for them: 

Call:
1-800-273-TALK (8255)

They are there especially for this!
You can even call and get advice that is relevant specifically to your situation. 

Unless you have lost a loved one to suicide, I don't believe you will ever fully understand the loss; a complete void in your life that will always be there. 
I wouldn't want anyone to be in these [my] shoes...
 This is why I vent publicly, I don't want anyone to ever have to go through this mind-boggling type of loss. We as mothers should never have to go through this type of pain. 

Like all of us who love Tavin so very much and miss him deeply and daily! I also lost my Dear Mother to suicide. It has been two of the most gut-wrenching pain from guilt and regrets, I have ever had to face.

My eldest son Tavin (who took his own life on Sept.12th, 2010) About 3 months before that, asked me to look on the calendar and see what day Sept 12th fell on... When I told him it would be a Sunday and that it was also Grandparent's day; he simply replied: "oh ok, better yet; thank you." 
So I asked him, "why are you asking, Son?" He just replied, "Oh, no reason really. I was just wondering." Very calm and with great confidence in his voice. Did I mention he was doing the dishes for me (w/o asking him to)? Once he had finished them up, he gave me a great big hug and kiss, and told me he loved me very much. And he was going to his room to record (work on recording and mixing his music); little did I know; he was recording his suicide songs (letters).

There were other things said by him that I feel foolish now that those words, didn't register more Red Flags at the time.

And I'm not just bragging about his intelligence that he was blessed with (maybe I helped too) with a very high IQ and was born with more talent than anyone in our immediate family. He mentioned feeling uncomfortable because he felt like he was surrounded by simpletons and just couldn't get a grip on the real struggle of what we call "Mental Illness" or the Lack of Mental Wellness.

Here is a picture of one of my greatest achievements as well as, one of my greatest losses... 
My eldest Son; Tavin W. M. Jarrard also know as numerous other aliases, but most famously known for Toby and/or Sir T! 
There will be rumors and whispers, even this blog will bring about negativity and haters. 
I am hoping that with the negative conversations, there will also be some positive sparks of conversation on the subject of suicide. And families will open up and talk about what is bothering them; before they nearly explode or the possibility of an implosion (suicide).

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

I lost more than just my eldest son; I lost a part of me that was a confident mother, I lost a part of my heart and soul which has affected everything I now say and do. Nearly every day, I seem to find yet another way to self destruct.  
I am NOT rambling on for sympathy; but rather to possibly spare another Mother the heartbreak that comes from losing a child/young adult.

It doesn't help any one's life to take out an important equation of the family pie. Killing yourself is not an answer; it is just now someone else's (many others) problems and pain. Do you really want to put your Mother, Father, Brothers  Sisters, and/or Friends through that type of pain? God could have it planned to take you tomorrow; I believe there is more dignity in dying by God's hand than by my own. I am very grateful that my attempts were unsuccessful.

My son struggled for years... you say why didn't I help him; I did, it was a constant worry and thought. He was so determined to be successful, he would hide many things from many people, to be sure he was not going to be stopped.




You need to fight the disease of depression...
not the person dealing with it.

If you know someone that talks about suicide (or is taking actions of hurting themselves),  then you must tell someone that loves them as well. 
Sometimes I believe those of us who do suffer from mental illness such as depression; get the backlash of the stigmas! Unless you have felt the same way a person that has depression or suffers from some other mental disorders; you will have your opinions, but, are you part of the solution or are you part of the problem?
When you talk to someone that has such a frame of mind that just doesn't seem right, or they have straight up told you they were thinking of or planning their own demise, and you don't know how to help them: 
EDUCATE Yourself; 
Call the Hotline for them!

If you don't tell someone else, you stand a chance of losing that person. Maybe you don't believe them or they have asked you not to say anything, this should form an urgency for deeper probing into the subject.
It is serious and chances are they probably aren't lying to you. My guess is if they are talking about it, they either want help (to be saved) or they wouldn't be talking about it so much. 




Fellow parents, watch for long sleeves in the summer (to cover the cutting), look out for sad writings and/or eerie drawings; listen to the music that may or not be your genre. Get to know your child inside and out! If you are unsure or they won't talk to you about anything other then school, find someone they will relate with! 
You might end up being an unlikely hero to them. However, be careful not to constantly interrupt them with "your own opinion" on the subject; they will never find you really "open". I know as loving parents, we mean well with our advice, and we may think they aren't listening; but don't be fooled they are. 
So, be careful what you have them hear!  
Even if you are close and have talked about the subject of suicide, you are still in need of staying on your toes. 
Don't ever get too confident that "My child would Never do that"!

I hope that everyone makes a difference in their friend's lives. Even if it is a phone call to check in on them. To let them know you are thinking about them, perhaps send them a quick card or even an e-mail
Just knowing there is someone out there thinking about you and they take the time to let you know gives some reassurance that someone does in fact care.

You may not be able to ever stop a troubled soul that is determined to kill themselves; however, if you at least try... you will not have as many regrets; that will surely haunt you forever. 

If it is more serious then you can handle (they are in serious turmoil); then it is time to call in the professionals.

 I hope Tavin's friends; as well as, all of you reading this, have learned from this loss and the events that have flipped mine and everyone who knew my Tavin, worlds upside down and all around.
Much Love and Peace to all you who cared about our AWESOME Tavin; and to those of you who have absolutely no idea who I am, I wish you well also. And I hope you never have to endure this type of painful grief. 

September 8th-14th is National Suicide Awareness   

In my opinion, I feel It should be National Suicide Prevention and Awareness Week Day; EVERY DAY! ...

Starting Now To Infinity... 

I would like to encourage everyone that if you think someone is in need of a friend to talk to, I would encourage you to take ACTION! 

Sometimes all that is required of you is to take the time to listen; as well as, understand them and what they are going through.

Just knowing someone cares enough to listen; can be just enough to get them through until they can seek counseling, and or see a professional. 

If I have to endure this pain and grief; maybe to be proof to Mother's and Father's out there, that there is life after love and loss. Maybe this is my purpose. I feel that I have read stories of survival and thought, "oh my God How?" And then it happened to me... 
My "How" had names; Coty and Sommer. They needed me now, more than ever. It wasn't overnight by any means, but with time I focused on them and their needs. Almost too much catering, however, I was lucky enough to nip it in the bud before they had a chance to make that behavior a habit.

There are numerous reputable sites full of awesome advice: On Signs Of A Suicidal Person:
 HelpGuide.org 
The National Institute Of Mental Health: 
nimh.nih.gov/
Suicide Awareness Voices of Education
save.org/

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

afsp.org/

May you be guided by light in your daily life.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Call 911

Call a suicide/prevention crisis hotline

(800-784-2433 or 800-273-8255)

◦ Assistance if you are deaf or hearing impaired? (800-799-4TTY)

◦ Para Obtener Asistencia en español, lame al (888-628-9454)

Veteran? Call 800-273-8255. Press “1” to reach the VA hotline

Go to a hospital emergency room!

God Bless, Peace and Passion in all that you do!

Allow Yourself Forgiveness!

You MUST,  If you expect others to forgive you. 

Life has been a roller coaster ride for me. I have had some ups and downs; in other words "What hasn't killed me; has ingeniously made me stronger"! 

So, for the things that nearly kill us; but don't, is what we have to forgive.

Life can be cruel! It is generally the PEOPLE!Some People can be viciously cruel!

IF WE ALLOW THEM TO BE!  
The People, we cannot manage as easily; but we do not have to allow them to drain our energy either. We have the freedom of choice.

On the other end of the spectrum; we should allow life to BE...

  A GRAND AMUSEMENT! With roller-coasters, boo boo's and fun or slow, steady and boring. So, instead of focusing on the negatives; go for the laughs and good times.

You have to let Go; let God and LIVE!

Forgive yourself now, you might as well enjoy the perks in life; God will forgive you (even if you don't) but it is in your favor.
Life is what you make it; I'm sure you have heard this before; but have you ever just thought about that statement?
Make it something to be proud of. Know that everyone makes mistakes, and sometimes we learn from those said mistakes. I like to think of every day as a learning experience. A memory reference, a life token, as well as, a lesson learned!

 You MUST have faith that God has something very special waiting for you, in order to make up for the times of turmoil that you might have endured.

We have enough to worry about; we don't need to constantly worry about things that we have absolutely NO control over! 

One of those things are past mistakes... we can't take them back, we can only learn from them, and try to never make that same mistake again. It takes courage as the prayer goes:

God Please Grant Me... 

The SERENITY To Accept, 

The Things I Cannot Change;

The COURAGE To Change, The Things I Can;

And The WISDOM To Know The Difference! 

Please seek help if you are feeling more than just a little down!

In Crisis? 1-800-273-TALK


Or call a friend, family member, or the crisis hotline above. In some areas of Michigan, you can even call 211 for resources locally.
If you are more than just a little down, maybe you are going through some stressful situation and things are tougher than usual; then please talk it out with someone you trust.  
You don't get a redo when you make hasty decisions. These decisions, do not only affect you but everyone that cares about you. It is not worth it,  things turn around and seem to work themselves out. 
Well, I also believe in prayer; the power of prayer can literally work miracles!
I have loved and lost twice over; my mother and my eldest son. I cannot even begin to describe this type of pain. It is impossible to not feel guilty on some level. 
I don't want anyone else to ever have to deal with this type of loss. When your mental health becomes unstable and you know that you at risk for hurting yourself or someone else then I beg of you to get help from family and friends or even seek professional help! You are way too important to let yourself or your loved ones suffer. Life can be extremely cruel at times; however, it can also be extremely short. We never know if tomorrow will be our last day on earth or not. So, why shorten it and hurt the ones that love us the most.

On the other end of the spectrum are the people that need us to lend an open ear. You may not be in crisis, however, you may have a friend that is. They need to know that people love them anyway, despite and especially because they are who they are. I hope that there will be someone who calls another because they need them to.
 I also hope this makes sense.

Here is a number if you or anyone you know are 

indeed, in 

crisis; please call a professional for advice.

 In Crisis?  1-800-273-TALK

               Get Information:              

  http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/go/information/get-info 

In Crisis? 1-800-273-TALK

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/default.ht

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Here are some things that change the hormonal

 balance 

of our 

chemicals in our brains:

The Weather: Sunlight can affect our brain almost directly through the thin parts of the skull and other parts of the brain and triggers the production of endorphin's which are the feel-good hormones that put us in such a good mood. A lack of sunlight can starve us of one of these major sources of happiness hormones and this is what causes many people to suffer from 'SAD' – Seasonal Affective Disorder – which is a more exaggerated dependency on the weather for our mood. Such people can purchase daylight lamps which cause the same effect in the brain and can be kept on throughout the more overcast days. 

Energy: Having more energy keeps us in a livelier and more upbeat mood as the brain requires energy to function. Make sure then that you get enough calories and get enough sleep. Vitamins such as B6 can also help improve our mood this way. 

Food: Foods can have a range of different effects on our body, providing us with carbs, but also with chemicals such as dopamine. Dopamine is the 'reward' center of our brain and this is what gets produced after sex or when we eat something when we're really hungry to encourage us to repeat this behavior. A particularly good source of dopamine is bananas. 

Immune System: Our immune system can also increase or lessen our mood, and if we are fighting lots of diseases this can make our whole body more suppressed and our mood will follow suit. 

Smiling: Smiling can improve our mood via something called 'facial feedback. Facial feedback essentially states that when we pull an expression, our body produces the hormones to make sure that we feel that emotion. Thus if we smile, we will start to feel better and if we grimace then our mood will drop. Next time you're in a bad mood try just smiling and you'd be surprised what it can do. 

Seeing Others Smile: Another effect occurs thanks to what is known as 'mirror neurons' – neurons that fire when they see someone else do something. Thus if you see someone else smile it causes our mirror neurons to fire and we feel as though we are smiling. The reverse is also true, and this is just one part of why moods are contagious and can spread through a group. 

Anticipation and Reward: Dopamine is released in a range of scenarios where we either anticipate a reward or get rewarded. This is why we'll feel ecstatic if we win the lottery – but also why just the anticipation of looking at the numbers can actually improve our mood. 

Music: Music can affect the pleasure centers of the brain and a fast beat can speed up your thinking and make you feel more energized and awake – all of which are correlated with better moods. Slow music, on the other hand, slows you down and makes you feel more sullen as a result. 

Love: Love causes us to produce phenobarbital which is another chemical that causes happiness and this is partly why we feel so ecstatic when we're in love. Kissing and cuddling can also cause us to release a range of feel-good hormones. 

Exercise: Exercise causes us to produce endorphins and again improves our mood as a result. This is what is known as the 'runners high'.

Thank you for reading to the end. Be amazingly positive!

Just keep getting back up!

It is difficult to keep getting up after you have been repeatedly crunched down by the losses of loved ones; the "getting up" part is the most important part; even though it is very hard to do. 
You have to be the one to do it; that is why it is so difficult. It is also very rewarding knowing that you accomplished yet another feat against the demons associated with mental illness. Or just those thoughts of worthlessness or if you have felt like you have let every down in your life. But, that's the demons tempting you.

The most rewarding things in life can be the most challenging to achieve. 

When I say "Just Keep Getting Back Up!": 
I mean you just never know who is watching, do you want them to see you dust off and get back on that problem? Or do you want them to see you curled up in the fetal position, giving up on everything?

I believe that our faith and hope of seeing our loved ones again has a great deal to do with our recovery process. Having my Faith is what has helped me to keep "getting back up". Knowing that I will see and be with my loved ones once again, has been a literal lifesaver.

It makes me feel better to know that I can help someone else who also struggles with mental illness, and help them like I was helped.

Never be ashamed of having your faith, as long as no one gets hurts. I am one of God's children!

~Dar~@Facebook

I just can't imagine anyone feeling alone, lonely, or even just plain abandoned. I am extremely sorry if you are feeling that way. 
[I don't mean to sound like a hypocrite,  believe me, I have been there and I will probably be there (sad and depressed)  again.]

But, what I mean is as a whole, we all have a down day here and there and some of us are grief-stricken for months upon months adding up to years! But, instead of spiraling down and talking yourself into foolish behavior; heed my advice, and don't sweat the small stuff as it were the big stuff!

We are really the ones in charge of our happiness; others contribute to our emotions, however, we are really the ones in charge of our OWN Destinies. 

If you are feeling lonely, then call a friend or loved one to confide in. Only you know when you really NEED to talk to someone; so do so! Let them HELP you.

God Bless and enjoy each and every moment of each and every day, for the rest of your life.


I sometimes get caught up in what I "do" and forget what I should be "doing"!
So, to my patient friends and family, I say, Sorry I don't call, I don't always particularly care for phone calls.

Thank You and I hope this smile being sent out to you all; brings you a smile for today and every day for the rest of your life.

Depression is a disease of the mind. It sounds dirty and quite frankly a bit frightening. There are other stigmas (untrue myths) that are very prominent in many people's minds. I want to clear up the stigmas surrounding suicide. I am just asking you to educate yourself before you condone others on the subject. Whether you want to believe it or not there, are people who struggle every day (such as myself) with depression and other mental illnesses. 
You can't "catch it" is the term we would use as in having a cold, kind of "catch it". You can, however, be afraid they will bring you down; and of course most of us will agree that misery does certainly enjoy great company on occasion, However, you could always turn the table by infecting them with your amazing breaths of fresh and positive opinions!

Best Feelings in the world.

These are some of mine and from others. Have a super sweet day and may your Day Be As AMAZING As YOU Are!

• Spending quality time with loved ones.
• Getting a card and letters in the mail from your best friend.
• Getting your hair to do exactly what you want it to do.
• Getting a smile and "I Love You, Mom", from your children.
• The feeling you get when you are done watching a really good movie.
• The feeling you get when you are on the dance floor and he is only looking at you.

A list of some of the best feelings in the world!

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Pants on the ground Remix by Sir T

Here is one of his hit remixes; listen on YouTube: 

youtube.com/pants_on_the_ground_OG

More music can be heard on:

reverbnation.com/sirtavin

Here is what you do; if you don't know what to do.

Here is what to do; if you don't know WHAT to do!

When we don't know which way to turn next, we [the majority of us] remain frozen; unable to make changes! Frozen in the sense that it is hard to know which way to go in life. With that comes poor decision making. We must think things all the way through; before we make hasty decisions.

Which in turn, when we make wise decisions it would produce a much greater reward, by doing so. Most of us already know this; but, somehow it escapes our frontal lobes in times of turmoil. Sometimes we are willing, to be honest with ourselves... And admit when we are wrong; if we at least admit it to ourselves that our decision-making skills could be refreshed, we would all be better off.

Yes, you can be dishonest to yourself. The worst thing you can do... Is do nothing! 
You only get further and further behind, which completely contradicts and complicates what you are trying to accomplish in the first place. -Know what to do when you don't know what to do.

Start by taking charge of yourself and admit when you are wrong. Treat yourself fairly when you are (because you only get one you). And on the occasions when we do need to admit we are wrong; understand that is OVER HALF of the battle! It takes a lot of guts (courage) to admit when we are wrong, however, after that is is all for the better. We can start seeking out the best possible solution to that particular problem.

So, if you are still blaming everyone else, all of the time, for ALL OF YOUR Problems... Then STOP It, and rethink who the problem actually begins and ends with. 

The best way to start fixing a personality (and your problems), is to first know that you can; with serenity, courage and wisdom. Begin by finding God, place him in your heart, and know that you are not taking this journey alone. Once you learn or confirm that you are not alone; your journey shouldn't be as intimidating as it was before. That way you can spend time looking back in your memories and see other people's views of the same scenario.
There have been times that I was insensitive, greedy and rude! I didn't know at the time. I thought of it when I WAS FED UP! Fed up with me for blaming others for my very own doings. Ridiculous I thought; how can you blame others for what I have created? But I did, for years in fact. Once I was able to admit that "I CREATE IT ALL! I am here at this very moment, by the choices I made many years ago.
So, when you start to feel the rage of anger brought on by other people, innocent people or people that also make mistakes and say rude things; just keep your cool and know that one day they will have a bad day or a bad week because of their decisions. And I am sure you will encounter more bad moods and mistakes from yourself and others. And that is ok, just remember to forgive yourself and others.

A bittersweet story...

I am not saying that everyone has the ability to completely heal themselves; I am totally for getting help when I get overwhelmed. I want others to know that there are things we can change and then there are things that we need to admit that we need to get professional help. And please Do NOT feel embarrassed or ashamed in any way. Be proud that you have the courage to stand up for yourself!

But also there are some things that will actually help the process of putting yourself in a better mood, such as:

The Weather: Sunlight can affect our brain almost directly through the thin parts of the skull and other parts of the brain and triggers the production of endorphins which are the 'feel-good hormones' that put us in such a good mood. A lack of sunlight can starve us of one of these major sources of happiness hormones and this is what causes many people to suffer from 'SAD' – 'Seasonal Affective Disorder' – which is a more exaggerated dependency on the weather for our mood. Such people can purchase daylight lamps which cause the same effect in the brain and can be kept on throughout the more overcast days. 

Energy: Having more energy keeps us in a livelier and more upbeat mood as the brain requires energy to function. Make sure then that you get enough calories and get enough sleep. Vitamins such as B6 can also help improve our mood this way. 

Food: Foods can have a range of different effects on our body, providing us with carbs, but also with chemicals such as dopamine. Dopamine is the 'reward' center of our brain and this is what gets produced after sex or when we eat something when we're really hungry to encourage us to repeat this behavior. A particularly good source of dopamine is bananas. 

Immune System: Our immune system can also increase or lessen our mood, and if we are fighting lots of diseases this can make our whole body more suppressed and our mood will follow suit. 

Smiling: Smiling can improve our mood via something called 'facial feedback'. Facial feedback essentially states that when we pull an expression, our body produces the hormones to make sure that we feel that emotion. Thus if we smile, we will start to feel better and if we grimace then our mood will drop. Next time you're in a bad mood try just smiling and you'd be surprised what it can do. 

Seeing Others Smile: Another effect occurs thanks to what is known as 'mirror neurons' – neurons that fire when they see someone else do something. Thus if you see someone else smile it causes our mirror neurons to fire and we feel as though we are smiling. The reverse is also true, and this is just one part of why moods are contagious and can spread through a group. 

Anticipation and Reward: Dopamine is released in a range of scenarios where we either anticipate a reward, or get rewarded. This is why we'll feel ecstatic if we win the lottery – but also why just the anticipation of looking at the numbers can actually improve our mood. 

Music: Music can affect the pleasure centers of the brain and a fast beat can speed up your thinking and make you feel more energized and awake – all of which are correlated with better moods. Slow music, on the other hand, slows you down and make you feel more sullen as a result. 

Love: Love causes us to produce phenylalanine which is another chemical that causes happiness and this is partly why we feel so ecstatic when we're in love. Kissing and cuddling can also cause us to release a range of feel-good hormones. 

Exercise: Exercise causes us to produce endorphins and again improves our mood as a result. This is what is known as the 'runners high'.

One of the most important things to remember is that; life can sometimes get really hard. And then the next day something completely amazing happens to you... just think about how close you were to miss that. 

You can't base the value of your life on one person's opinion or a short span of time such as 8-12 hours; when you have lived so many years. You need to love yourself so you can be lovable to someone else. Even though you are loved and cared for, even if you don't realize it. As far as someone getting mad at us, this doesn't mean that they stopped loving us.

I hope everyone is blessed with the ability to be doing exactly what they want to be doing. May your life extend to infinity and back, have a blessed day.

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