Good Findings To You All.
Sometimes we search for things; in life. We search for some sort of fulfillment. We sometimes feel like we are reaching and searching for something that we are missing. Or we think we are missing something tangible. For many months, off and on, I remember searching. I wished I had this and thought I needed something else.
Sometimes They Are Right In Front Of Us!
But, truly it was there, right there in front of me the whole time. I just didn't know how to use it. We are just wasting energy worrying about the "what if's" and the "but if only"... Forget all that!
You cannot change the past!
You can only move forward. There are no such things as time machines, so, we have to forgive ourselves. Yes, I said it, forgive ourselves and move past the "what if's and the "should haves" "could haves". You need to erase them from your vocabulary. They will weigh you down and beat you down until you feel like you can no longer get up.
My own self conscious was holding me back. I cannot blame others for where I am or even where I am not, in my life. I could blame it on many people and nothing will change. Or I can admit that I am where I am today, because of the decisions and choices that I have made. The best things in life are free; you just have to be willing to see them.
"WE CREATE IT ALL".
I disagreed with this statement when I first read it in a college success class. It was the very first chapter. And it was the best class I have ever taken. I have had to practice what I preach and made a few upsets along the way. I wasn't easily convinced that my problems weren't to blame on say my parents, my ex-boyfriends, my friends (at the time); I didn't really get what that meant until I finally believed it; that WE create it ALL. All of our actions create a reaction, that reaction creates the next course of events, and so on.
I disagreed with this statement when I first read it in a college success class. It was the very first chapter. And it was the best class I have ever taken. I have had to practice what I preach and made a few upsets along the way. I wasn't easily convinced that my problems weren't to blame on say my parents, my ex-boyfriends, my friends (at the time); I didn't really get what that meant until I finally believed it; that WE create it ALL. All of our actions create a reaction, that reaction creates the next course of events, and so on.
It wasn't my parent's fault that I didn't go to college right after high school, that was totally my choice. In fact, they both encouraged me to do the exact opposite of what I did do.
My point is that we must accept the blame for what goes both wrong and right in our lives because our good choices affect us as much, if not more than our bad choices in life. Just something to gnaw on when you feel like blaming or being mad at someone for something going wrong in your life. If we just accept it, then make the necessary adjustments to fix things. But, we need a balance as to not bring on guilt for making said poor choices. There isn't anything you can do to change history; however, you can learn from it and choose to make better decisions in the future.
Be careful not to say things that you don't want to be set in stone. Words can tear through a persons soul.
Thank You for reading until the end.
